Incase you aren’t familiar with me, I’m Monica and my husband and I have 5 young rambunctious boys. I’m so glad you’ve stubbled upon our loving mess! Life is real and in real life, it gets messy sometimes. We often would struggled to give each one of our kids the one-on-one attention that they needed. We had to come up with something to fix the “no good” situation because their well being and self confidence is so important to us.
My husband works quite a bit during the week so our boys don’t get to see their dad as often and they see mommy (I’m a stay at home mom). The time that a child and his father spend together is so precious!
Our Solution for Giving Our Kids One-on-One Time When You Have a Lot of Them!
We planned on rotating days so each child could have daddy all to himself.
Our boys were ecstatic about this idea and couldn’t wait each week for their Father Son Days. On those days they have a chance to speak about whatever was on their mind. All attention is on them, no distractions! They love it.
While my husband is out with one of our boys I keep the rest with me and we plan something fun to do together.
I think sometimes life moves so fast that we may not think about all the things our kids need like that individual attention they may be yearning for. That alone time with each parent is time you can both cherish forever. You create lasting bond, and it’s a way to get to know your child better.
I’m from a big family and you weren’t always heard sometimes. I was a very sensitive child, I understand life got super busy and people have responsibilities to take care of. Heck, we have to make sure we keep a roof over this big family! But I didn’t get the one-on-one time that I felt I needed. It could have helped me growing up. I lacked confidence which still affects me today, I really have to push myself these days (or have someone else push me). 😉
We have been doing the Father Son Days for about 4 months now and it helps our family stay connected. I really want to start having Mommy & Son dates soon. We will switch off during the month to make sure we both get to spend one-on-one time with our sons.
If you are having trouble connecting with your kids pray for God to help you become the parent that your child needs you to be. This has really helped me, and I still continue to pray for it. I like to think that the little ideas I get about our family is God helping me mother our children the way God, and our kids need me to.
Your Action Plan
- Plan out days you can fit in some one-on-one time with your child. Make a cute schedule or add it into your calendar.
- Choose what you’ll be doing together. I like to make a list of things to draw from.
- Make lasting bonds with your child and listen to them more than you talk.
Remember these dates don’t even have to cost money!
I have some ideas for fun dates with your kids and what the other parent can do with their other children at home. This will be in a later post so come back for some goodies that will come along with it!